One thing I believe wholeheartedly is that we ALWAYS have choices. In any given situation there is usually more than one option to choose from. Granted, those options may not be preferable, or even comfortable, but there are always multiple options to choose from. Decision making is a skill and it takes practice to feel more comfortable while you are doing it. Ideally, we want to start when our children are very young so that they can practice early, but it is never too late